Six Signs You're Overdoing Your Theme Wedding in New Jersey

by Tara Bard, Contributing Writer

Theme weddings are exciting to plan and execute. New Jersey couples frequently go for themes encompassing beaches, casinos and seasons. When done subtly, a theme carries the spirit of your wedding through the entire event. If done poorly, guests might feel put off by the intense theme.

Here are some potential problems and ways to avoid them:
   
Hair too big, heels to high, muscles too massive, skin too tan. Like "Jerseylicious" or "Jersey Shore?" Awesome. Consider keeping it to yourself as you giggle over the to-be-released DVD sets. Generally, people in New Jersey aren't like people on those shows and some are even offended by them.

How to fix it: Consider a subtle beach theme instead.
   
Sand and shell overload! It's inexpensive and creative to emphasize a beach theme with shells or even live fish in the centerpieces at your reception, but if you fear your guests will complain of sand in their undies before the end of the ceremony, cut back on the theme.


How to fix it: Replace theme elements with beachy colors representing the sand and the sea.
   
Did the bride just lose her groom...in a bet? If your Atlantic City casino theme is too focused on cards and craps rather than the event of your lifetime, you might want to scale back. How to fix it: Work with tasteful casino party planners to tone down your theme without losing the fun.
   
It's a nautical nightmare. You know that cozy feeling you get when you're falling asleep after a day out on a boat? It's nice. However, you don't want guests feeling that way due to an overwhelming nautical theme. How to fix it: Include elements when possible instead of kitschy clip-art. Add water to your centerpieces instead of forcing the guests to look over large anchors and wheels all night, or think about something cute and affordable like goldfish crackers.

   
Seasonal overload. Seasons make for wonderful wedding themes, especially during summer. Guests are already aware of the season, however, so there's no need to break out the sunblock at the buffet table or provide them with candy corn favors after your fall wedding. How to fix it: Look to colors and elements to represent the seasons. Consider utilizing flowers that represent the season and its colors.
   
Medieval madness. Everyone makes fun of Medieval Times, but everyone loves the show. If the smell of horse manure intrudes upon your nuptial toast, however, you might need to put down that tiara and reconsider the extent of your theme. How to fix it: Dress up and have fun--but don't require your guests to wear medieval gear or participate in medieval games if they don't want to. Provide some consistency with a modern wedding in the way of music and events (like the garter toss) to keep everyone interested.
   
Do you have any additional advice for couples planning theme weddings in New Jersey? Please leave your comments below.

This post was originally published on Examiner.com.